14 Affirmations To Say To Yourself When You Feel Like Giving Up

Speak life over yourself with these positive affirmations.

We are currently eight months in 2020 and as we prepare to enter this new season, I know you are present with your pen and paper writing out your list on what you’ve accomplished so far and what you still need to check off. Most of us were full steam ahead with our resolutions until Miss Rona knocked on our doors with a “hey, sis.” As such, we are still adjusting to what the “new normal” looks like for us.

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Some of us have used this downtime to revamp while others like me are biting nails as we watch the growing numbers of positive cases on CNN, and look around whenever we hear someone cough—dealing with anxiety and fear of the unknown. Intermingled with that worry, many of us are having concerns with balancing the home and work life as our regular routines shattered with challenges with creating new habits. At any rate, our lives were shaken up, to say the least, and 2020 feels like the year that delivers blow after blow after blow. When met with anxiety and overwhelm, loss, uncertainty, worry, and financial stress, it can be easy to feel like giving up.

To help combat those inevitable low moments, something that could prove to be beneficial is speaking life over yourself through affirmations. Below are 14 positive affirmations to use when you feel like giving up.

I will be present in every moment.

Focus on the task at hand. Sometimes we get excited about completing a goal that we don’t enjoy the journey. When you feel overwhelmed or have negative self-talk, being present in the moment can shift your focus on what’s in front of you.

I have the power to change my story.

That’s the beauty of your life. It is yours, and you have the power to do whatever you want with it. That is the ultimate power and freedom. You can change your story within seconds. Realize that power and use it for good.

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Everything I’m looking for I can find within me.

Have you ever asked your friend for advice but you already know what to do? Were you looking for confirmation? Ignoring outside opinions in lieu of trusting your gut and instincts, you will increase your self-confidence in knowing what you need to do and what it takes to get it done.

I love myself enough to push through.

Sometimes the most difficult tasks and decisions will test you and require you to dig a little deeper, stay up a little longer, or even get in one more squat for your summer body. It all boils down to the love and commitment you’re willing to give to yourself.

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Great things never come from my comfort zone.

It’s time to say no to things that don’t serve you and start saying yes to something that can elevate you. Nothing is wrong with being playing it safe. However, to grow, you must push past being passive in reaching your goals and start being active. Coming out of our comfort zones reveals a side of us that we didn’t know existed. Let’s be honest, “old ways won’t open new doors.”

Something amazing is about to happen to me.

You probably can’t see it, touch it, taste it, or feel it, but you are so close. To reach any goal, you have to fake it until you make it. Saying it fifty times a day will give you all the confidence to embrace all the good that will happen in our life.

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I thoroughly let go and trust in divine timing.

Things happen when they’re supposed to happen, and not when you’re ready for them to arrive. While attending to your goals, you are building your character along the way. Letting go and trusting the process will alleviate any anxiety and stress you may be feeling during this time. The point is that you have to keep going. When the time does arrive, you can and will appreciate it more.

I accomplish anything I focus on.

It’s easy to get distracted during these current times. If we focus long and hard enough, we can get things done, whether it takes hours, days, or years. Setting time aside, meditating, and praying will impact your focus and motivation to complete your goals.

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I choose prosperity over failure.

Don’t allow Miss Rona to step on your toes and get in your way. You’ve come too far. Put those Pinterest boards to good use and hit the ground running. You can’t fail, and you aren’t giving yourself room to fail. You’ve come too far to give up now.

I release all negativity.

Are your thoughts motivating you or intimidating you to throw in the towel? What is popping up on your timeline? Sometimes to complete the tasks we deem necessary, we have to let go of something until the mission is complete temporarily.

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I am always headed in the right direction.

When diving into something new, you will often second-guess yourself or jump in the pool of self-sabotage. But, everything you’ve worked for so far is leading you in the direction of your goals. The journey wasn’t perfect; it may not have looked like your peers’ journeys, but you are on the path to success as long as you know that you were forever in the right direction.

I honor my commitments and promises.

You’ve spent weeks and months conjuring up the plan to put things in motion to complete your goals finally. You’ve already made the verbal agreement with yourself. To keep your promises to yourself, you’ve signed your name on the dotted line and are committed to this journey.

I am running a marathon at my own pace and aim at the finish line.

Before you compare and contrast your journey with your peers, it is essential to recognize what sacrifices you’re willing to make, to dig deep and to figure out what your goals indeed are. Other people’s success can be discouraging and make you question your path. If you focus on the task at hand, the finish line can become apparent and more tangible. You are a winner for even trying, getting started, and executing.

I have the power to overcome hardships.

Let’s face it. You’ll endure more lows than highs during this time. The small wins and victories also come with epic fails and humps to get over. It would help if you reminded yourself that you would prevail. You will overcome this. You will win.

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Thanks for reading! Hopefully these tips help. If you know any other self positive affirmation, comment them below. We love to hear from you guys.

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All The Dope Lewks To Copy and Paste From The ‘Gram

2020 isn’t cancelled, and neither is dressing up.

Three things: 2020 isn’t canceled. Living your best life isn’t canceled. Dressing up isn’t canceled.

It just looks different now. And that’s not a bad thing because we are becoming more creative and intentional in every realm of our lives – that includes our style choices. Being in the house makes you want to lounge in pajamas and sweatpants but sometimes you need to switch it up. Even your dreaded-now-celebrated trips to the grocery store could use some sparkle. No worries, we got you, sis.

We rounded up some lewks we have been double-tapping from Instagram that we know will brighten up your life. You’ll find pops of color, new trends, tried and true staples, and simple feel-good clothes on our list. Keep reading for inspo!

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Frilancy

Crop tops and slip skirts were made for one another. We can’t help but obsess over Frilancy’s choice to pair the yellow bottom with the pink shoes. The contrast is perfection!

Devyni

Devyni elevated her distressed denim with a graphic tee, mules and a flat cap. She is giving us all the off-duty model vibes. You could easily rock this getup to Target or for a stroll around the block.

Antonia

Zoom celebrations are the new wave in the era of social distancing. We might as well get cute in the house to stunt for these said celebrations. Opt for a retro lewk like Antonia. Her wide leg pants are to die for!

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Nelly

Doesn’t Nelly’s number make you want to dance to “Why Don’t You Love Me” by Beyonce? It also makes me want to be super domesticated and whip up a super southern meal.

Kiitan

The effortlessness of a midi dress makes my heart so happy. You can don it with sneakers like Kiitan or wear your favorite kitten heels. Yes, I said kitten heels because they are on trend and won’t have you doing the ‘my feet hurt’ walk.

Vanessa

Sweatshirts and sweatpants are the champions of quarantine. They provide the comfort and ease needed to make it through endless Zoom meetings and homeschooling the kiddos. Make the basics fashionable with a beanie and hoop earrings. Bantse Vanessa Padi is looking beautiful, comfy and stylish. Who says you can’t have it all?!

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Tyla

Tyla is the queen of tie dye realness; it’s been her go-to during the safer-at-home orders. We can’t front – tie dye is such a cool print. It’s also a dope way to past time.

Fisayo

Summer dresses are still a thing so make sure you have a couple in your closet. Fisayo made this one her own by not buttoning every button and added nude mules for a ultra-chic outfit.

Juliette

Give us leg, Romiette! Juliette Foxx monochromatic lewk makes us want to get dolled up. We dare you to do the same! It will be the highlight of your day.

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Ryan

Ryan can do no wrong and her kick game is as strong as Beyonce’s wig glue. Feeling Sporty Spice-ish? Get like Ryan and pair your favorite bikini top with baggy sweats and a white button down.

Paola

Grab your mini me and dress up in the same color for a fun, socially distanced day in the park. Head wraps are clutch for bad hair days too. Paola’s red lip and jeweled earrings made it so high fashion.

Kellie

Kellie is showing us how to wear a short sweat set with style and confidence. It is warming up outside but wear what makes you feel comfortable and ca-yute!

Aysha

Shoutout to Aysha for giving us WFH outfit inspo because our creativity is starting to dwindle. We really appreciate her high waist pants and jersey knit crop top. She could even wear this to a virtual happy hour with some bold earrings.

Rochelle

Rochelle got dressed up just for us so we owe it to her to copy and paste her outfit. Her layered summer dress is picture perfect and we love how she styled it. You can also try adding different colors like red or yellow for other styling options. You could even rock white sneakers to dress it down.

Derria

If you’re going to wear joggers, you might as well make sure they are leather. If you’re going to wear sneakers, you might as well make sure they are cow print. Derria fashioned a simple all-black look extremely modish by adding textures and prints.

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The Key Item You Need To Pair With Jeans This Fall

You may have already noticed, but cardigans are creating quite the stir in the fashion world right now. Not only does a cardigan offer endless styling possibilities – but it’s the #1 item to pair with jeans this fall. You can wear it as a crop top, style it with a matching bra, or tie it around your shoulders and more. Shop from 16 uber-chic styles from Pretty Little Thing below.

CARDIGANS FROM PRETTY LITTLE THING

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TALL CREAM OPEN FRONT BRUSHED RIB CARDIGAN

$30.00 $6.00 (80% OFF)

Give your look a touch of cosy with this brushed rib cardigan. Featuring a cream material with long sleeves and a double front button fastening, style this with denim jeans and some pink heels to make your look pop.

Length approx 48cm/19″ (Based on a sample size UK 8)

Model wears size UK 8/ EU 36/ AUS 8/ US 4

Model Height – 5ft 10”

YELLOW FRILL EDGE CROPPED RIB CARDIGAN

$30.00 $10.00 (67% OFF)

Add some bold hues to your summer wardrobe with this cardigan. Featuring a yellow knit material with a frill edge design and a cropped fit, wear this with jeans and fresh kicks for the perfect off-duty combo.

Length approx 48cm/19″ (Based on a sample size S)

Model wears size S

Model Height – 5ft 6”

BABY BLUE COSY BELTED LONGLINE CARDIGAN

$48.00 $33.00 (31% OFF)

This cardigan is a must-have for your off-duty wardrobe. Featuring a baby blue cosy fabric with a belted design and a longline fit, team this with the matching top and bottoms for a look we’re loving.

Length approx 104cm/41″ (Based on a sample size S)

Model wears size S

Model Height – 5ft 6”

BLUSH MIXED CABLE OFF THE SHOULDER CARDIGAN

$35.00 $24.00 (31% OFF)

Add some pastel tones into your collection this season with this cardigan. Featuring a blush mixed cable material with off the shoulder fit and tie waist design. Style with some comfy bottoms and fresh kicks for an off-duty look we are loving.

Length approx 47cm/18.5″ (Based on a sample size S)Model wears size S

Model Height – 5ft 9.5”

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BLUSH POINTELLE DETAIL BUTTON UP CARDIGAN

$35.00 $23.00 (34% OFF)

This cardigan is at the top of our hit list this season doll. Featuring a blush material with button fastenings and a pointelle design. Style this with split hem jeans and fresh kicks for perfect ‘jeans and a nice top’ combo.

Length approx 51cm/20″ (Based on a sample size S)

Model wears size SModel Height – 5ft 7”

IVORY BUTTON FRONT RIB KNIT CARDIGAN

$38.00 $26.00 (32% OFF)

We are obsessing over this cardigan and it’s at the top of our hit list. Featuring an ivory knit material with button fastenings and a flattering fit. Style this with light wash jeans and strappy heels for drinks with the dolls.

Length approx 55cm/21.5″ (Based on a sample size S)Model wears size S

Model Height – 5ft 9”

BABY BLUE FLUFFY KNIT CROPPED CARDIGAN

$38.00 $25.00 (34% OFF)

This season a cropped cardigan is essential and we are loving this one doll. Featuring a soft baby blue fluffy knit material with button fastening and cropped length, what’s not to love? Dress it up with jeans and mules or keep it chilled with comfy bottoms and kicks.

Length approx 38cm/15” (Based on a sample size UK 8)

Model wears size UK 8/ EU 36/ AUS 8/ US 4

Model Height – 5ft 7”

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LILAC BUTTON UP SHORT SLEEVE KNITTED CARDIGAN

$30.00 $20.00 (33% OFF)

This cardigan is at the top of our hit list. Featuring a lilac knit with a button up front and short sleeves, we are obsessed. Team it with a jeans and chunky lace-up kicks for a look we’re loving.

Length approx 47cm/18.5″ (Based on a sample size S)

Model wears size S

Model Height – 5ft 6”

BABY BLUE DOUBLE TIE FRONT FITTED CARDIGAN

$30.00 $11.00 (63% OFF)

Add a pop of blue to your look with this cute cardigan. Featuring a baby blue material with short sleeves and a double tie front design. Style this with comfy bottoms and slides for the ultimate working from home combo.

Length approx 46cm/18″ (Based on a sample size S)Model wears size S

Model Height – 5ft 6”


BABY BLUE SKINNY FIT CARDIGAN

$35.00 $12.00 (66% OFF)

Update your casual look with this cardigan doll. Featuring a baby blue knit material with button fastenings and a skinny fit, team this with grey bottoms and fresh kicks for an off-duty look we’re loving.

Length approx 33cm/13″ (Based on a sample size S)

Model wears size S

Model Height – 5ft 9”

DUSTY BLUE CHUNKY KNIT SLOUCHY CARDIGAN

$48.00 $33.00 (31% OFF)

This slouchy cardigan is sure to give your look a chilled finish. Featuring a dusty blue chunky knit with long sleeves and a slouchy design, team it with some light wash jeans for a combo that can be styled up or down.

Length approx 68.5cm/27″ (Based on a sample size S)

Model wears size SModel Height – 5ft 8”

BLACK CABLE CROPPED CARDIGAN

$35.00 $23.00 (34% OFF)

This cropped cardigan is the perfect addition to your new-season wardrobe. Featuring a black cable knit fabric with button detailing, style this with some denim jeans for the perfect everyday look.

Length approx 47cm/18.5″ (Based on a sample size S)

Model wears size S

Model Height – 5ft 6”

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STONE SOFT OVERSIZED WRAP TIE CARDIGAN

$38.00 $21.00 (45% OFF)

This cardigan is at the top of our wishlist this season doll. Featuring a soft stone material, wrap tie detailing and an over-sized fit, we love this teamed with comfy bottoms and a pair of heeled boots to complete the look.

Length approx 68.5cm/27″ (Based on a sample size S)Model wears size S

Model Height – 5ft 9”

IVORY TIE FRONT CARDIGAN

$30.00 $16.00 (47% OFF)

Give your off-duty look a chic vibe with this essential cardigan. Featuring an ivory hue with a tie front detail, style with wide-leg pants, boots and a trench coat for a tonal look we’re loving.

Length approx 48.5cm/19″ (Based on a sample size S)

Model wears size S

Model Height – 5ft 9”

LILAC TIE FRONT CARDIGAN

$30.00 $18.00 (40% OFF)

This cardigan is a must-have for your new-season wardrobe doll. Featuring a lilac knit material with a tie front detail, style this with a mini skirt and fresh kicks for an all lilac look we’re loving.

Length approx 48.5cm/19″ (Based on a sample size S)

Model wears size S

Model Height – 5ft 9”

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PINK COLOR BLOCK BUTTON UP CROPPED CARDIGAN

$35.00 $24.00 (31% OFF)

Add a pop of color to your look with this cardigan. Featuring a pink colour block design with a button up front and a cropped fit, team this with jeans and mules for a look we’re obsessing over.

Length approx 53.5cm/21″ (Based on a sample size S)

Model wears size SModel Height – 5ft 9”

LILAC BUTTON FRONT CARDIGAN

$30.00 $20.00 (33% OFF)

This cropped cardigan is sure to add a little comfort to your look. Featuring a lilac knit with a button up front and long sleeves, we are obsessed. Team it with a matching hue skirt and chunky lace-up kicks for a look we’re loving.

Length approx 47cm/18.5″ (Based on a sample size S)

Model wears size S

Model Height – 5ft 9”

SHAPE GREY WIDE RIB MAXI CARDIGAN

$38.00 $25.00 (34% OFF)

Blessed with a body like an hourglass? Good for you girl. PLT Shape is designed with you in mind, with a few figure and curve enhancing tweaks to give you the perfect fit.

This simple cardigan is perfect for layering over any outfit. Featuring a grey wide rib knit material and a maxi length, we are obsessed. Team it with your off-duty outfit for extra comfort.

Length approx 130cm/51″ (Based on a sample size UK 6)

Model wears size UK 6/ EU 34/ AUS 6/ US 2

Model Height – 5ft 5”

ARE YOU A SUMMER OR FALL PERSON? ( comment below ) Love reading everyone comments 🤍

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RECOGNIZE YOUR SHOPPING TRIGGERS

Today it’s time to take a look at some of the reasons why we overspend and impulse shop.

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You’re a smart, savvy, level headed person and so am I, yet, we’ve both been there. That moment when you look at your visa statement and feel your heart sink. What? No, it can’t be. But how? If you’re like me you’ve overspent on things you don’t need on more than one occasion (okay fine, on many!) and it’s not something you’re 100% proud of. Sometimes logic gives way to desire but nothing kills the new shoe buzz like realizing your visa bill is more than double your monthly bills.

Maybe you don’t get into too much overspending trouble but you’re inclined to pick things up on a whim. Then get home or get the parcel and realize it’s not you or it doesn’t go with anything or a long list of other undesirable options. Whatever it ended up in your closet for 6 months or more and, with the tags still on, eventually finds it’s way into a clothing donation bin. Not the epic journey you had in mind for it originally. That pesky fear of missing out gets the better of us all!

The good news is we’re ready to make a change for the better. So let’s take a look at some shopping triggers because knowledge is power and it’s time to get savvy!

Here’s my take on some common triggers for impulse shopping and overspending:

1. Being Human

So it turns out that just being human is reason enough to be inclined to overspend and impulse shop. Our brains have figured out that shopping is a fabulous way to trigger the release of dopamine, a neurotransmitter that helps control the brain’s reward and pleasure centers. Shopping connects the association between buying something new and feeling good. That emotional reward becomes ingrained and suddenly it’s a habit that won’t let up.

I don’t have any serious suggestions on how to avoid being human but it helps to know what your brain is up to sometimes. If you’re hankering for a dopamine release or itching to shop, try to acknowledge it and switch up your reward. This could be anything from treating yourself to a green tea latte to signing up for a class you’ve been meaning to try. You may discover that your brain is not as foolproof as you think.

2. Discount Dangle

We all know this one, yet it’s probably the most common reason we end up with an overstuffed closet and nothing to wear. Recently, I saw a Bottega Veneta sandal, and at $900 it was a little too much and just a little ‘meh’ but at 60% off I was suddenly telling myself it’s pretty great shoe. Retailers are counting on this internal change of heart to help us leap but if you wouldn’t buy it at full price do you really want it at all? Of course, there are exceptions but for the most part, it’s best not to succumb to marketing trickery.

Ways to avoid discount dangle:

  •  Shop with an explicit list of what you need and stick to it. Define each item as much as possible so your ‘must-haves’ are clear. If you’re tempted by something but it doesn’t meet the exact requirements of your list, then it’s not going to satisfy.
  • It’s not a deal if you don’t need it. I try to keep this in mind when I’m tempted by sales.

3. Browsing Badlands

Maybe you’re on your lunch break or you’re waiting on feedback from a client or maybe it’s a cold night and you’re curled up in with a corgi and the Zara app (I may or may not have just described all my go-to browsing times). Wherever you are, you’re browsing and you’re coming across some pretty tasty morsels that are ever so easily hopping into your virtual cart. I’ve been there so many times and just when I think I’m safe, I find myself hitting the checkout button instead of closing the Safari app. GAH!

Ways to avoid the browsing badlands:

  • Unsubscribe from newsletters. This is by far my most trusted technique to avoid online shopping trouble. What I don’t know about sales and new arrivals, can’t hurt me.
  • Get away from your desk at lunch or try to take a quick walk once an hour to get the blood flowing and put your mind on something else.
  • Can’t getaway? Try hiding your bookmarks bar and fully closing your browser application after each use, don’t just minimize the window.
  • Get a good book. At night when I’m inclined to give in to the hypnosis that is Pinterest, a good read will often save me from myself.
  • Refer back to your well-defined list to help stop your brain from getting attached to things you don’t need.

4. Credit Card Bliss

Loss aversion is a basic economic principle and refer’s to our general tendency to prefer avoiding losses over acquiring gains. In theory, if I lost $100 I’d have lost more emotional satisfaction than I would gain if I won $100. In reality, I see that gorgeous leather bag but I’m not ready to part with the cash it costs to get it. Credit cards, however, make us feel like we’re not paying for things. At least not yet. So we’re much more inclined to cough up the credit than we are the cash. Not to mention the added incentives to buy with credit and earn points or reward miles etc.

Use the theory of loss aversion to your advantage:

  • Try setting up your PayPal to draw directly from your bank account. I know I’m not so nonchalant about a new pair of jeans when that hard-earned cash is coming right out of my checking account.
  • When you go shopping only bring your budget with you. If it’s $1000 take that out in cash and leave the credit card at home or pick up a pre-paid one. It’s hard to overspend with empty pockets.

5. High/Low Reward

This is a trigger many can relate to I’m sure. You’ve had a great day at work and you’re ready to treat yourself. Or maybe your day wasn’t so great actually and you just need a little pick me up. Shopping is an emotional management technique. We shop to ‘feel’ better, ride the high, unwind or relax and take our minds off a crazy day but the fix is temporary. Plus, there’s a good chance at these moments we’re not thinking our clearest or most practically.

Ways to avoid high and low impulses:

  • Plan alternate activities during the times you’re most inclined to shop for a mood boost. Maybe it’s an epic at-home pamper session complete with wine, a new magazine, and a bubble bath. Maybe it’s a delicious meal you can make from scratch.
  • Do something good for you. Maybe it’s taking the dog for a long walk or calling a friend you don’t see often or maybe it’s planning out and preparing awesome breakfasts for a whole week.

6. For Fun

Let’s not get too much of a hate-on for shopping here ok? It’s a blast! It’s a great way to spend some time, invigorate your senses, and get your creative juices flowing. There’s a thrill in imagining new outfits and anticipating the first time you’ll get to wear a new piece. But when it starts getting the better of your emotions, time or money, not so much.

Ways to have fun with fashion, not shopping:

  • Shop your closet. Pull everything out and start trying things on. You’ll be surprised to find a few hidden gems and it’s a great way to purge the excess.
  • Try a clothing swap with friends.
  • Check out this awesome Into-Mind post on Ways To Break Out of a Style Rut and Feel Inspired Again.

7. To Fill A Void

I saved this one for last because I think it might be my worst trigger and it can disguise itself brilliantly. When we feel a lack of confidence or control in our lives we seek out ways to pacify those feelings. If there is something to do with our appearance that we don’t feel good about we might buy new clothes or beauty products to hide or help it but it doesn’t go away. If we lack a sense of self-worth we might try to compensate by buying the latest bag or shoes. When we feel like we have no control over events in life we might buy things to feel like we have some say in what goes on.

I won’t dive too deep into the more psychological issues at hand here but if you feel like this is your main trigger I’d maybe take a little breather from shopping and try to identify the real reasons behind wanting to buy more things.

  • Try shopping fast for a week or even a month. Keep a journal about how you’re feeling and make notes about the times when you are particularly inclined to shop. Watch some tips on successful fasting here.
  • Consider switching up your routine slightly. Get up a 1/2 hour earlier to meditate. Go to bed a bit earlier and write in a journal. The better we know ourselves the better choices we’ll make.
  • Try boosting your confidence with a new skill.
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So what do you think? Do any of these triggers ring true for you? Do you have any others or maybe some tips to add? I’d love to hear them! I hope this list will prove useful and I intend to keep it updated as I continue on this mission.