By now, most of us are familiar with the concept of ghosting(breadcrumbing, orbiting, and all the various other terms used to describe the unique torture that is modern dating), either through personal experience or horror stories told by our single friends.
Ghosting can be a pretty sh*tty thing to do to someone. It often leaves the ghostie feeling confused and spending way too much mental bandwidth trying to decode why the person ghosted them. The ghoster, on the other hand, gets to peace out without any confrontation, conflict, or uncomfy-ness.
However, there are a few exceptions to the rule. In some instances, ghosting is okay—maybe even recommended.
We get into it below.
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The green flags of ghosting:
1. If you’re concerned for your safety. If you feel like your emotional, physical, or mental safety is at risk, you do not owe anything to the person making you feel that way. Protect yourself.
2. When they don’t respect your boundaries. This includes things like continuing to send you messages when you’ve told them you’re not interested.
3. If something just doesn’t feel right. Trust your instincts. If they make you feel uneasy or if something feels off, it’s okay to cut off contact with no explanation.
4. Three words: unsolicited dick pics. Consent is key, and that’s that on that.
5. If you feel like they are trying to manipulate and/or control you. If they send you messages that in any way resemble Jonah Hill’s, please feel free to ghost.
6. If you think you’re being catfished. Need we say more?
7. If they’ve been inconsistent with their communication. If the conversation seems like it’s not going anywhere, like an IRL date, save yourself the time and energy.
It’s a Barbie world and we’re just living in it, or at least we can pretend to live out our childhood dreams thanks to Margot Robbie (who didn’t want to live in Barbie’s Dreamhouse?!). ICYMI, Robbie is bringing the iconic Mattel doll to life in the much-anticipated Barbie movie. As Barbie, she can fly down the stairs and walk on water, but behind the plastic-fantastic, jet-setting lifestyle, pink ‘fits, and glam, the actress keeps it real–albeit rigorous at times–with her IRL wellness routine. Keep reading for the lowdown on Margot Robbie’s workout and nutrition preferences. Hint: Her sweat sessions include Hot Skatin’ Barbie energy (think: neon rollerblades, leotard, bike shorts, visor, protective gear, and all).
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Before we dive in, remember that a celebrity’s wellness routine is likely very different from any of ours; they have money and resources to make a healthy lifestyle feel easier, and pressures such as looking a certain way for a movie role. But celebrity or not, all of our wellness routines should look different because everybody is different, and “healthy” means something different to everyone. Take anything that interests or inspires you from this A-List movie star’s wellness routine, and leave whatever doesn’t.
Barbie’s famous gams aren’t going to tone themselves—Robbie put in the (hard) work to transform into the life-size figurine, and the movie’s trailers and BTS pics are proof. Her workout MO? Rollerblading. That’s right, it’s not just on screen that Robbie takes to the streets in her skates. According to her interview with Vogue, she likes to lace up even in her real life (she “hates to break”–she’s that hardcore). ICYWW, she took up roller-skating after her ice-skating stint as Tonya Harding in I, Tonya. To prove my point, she even conducted her Vogue interview while rollerblading. Before you knock the nostalgic activity, consider this: Based on a study by the University of Massachusetts, roller-skating causes less than 50% of the impact shock to your joints than running does, making it a low-impact cardio workout you don’t want to sleep on.
Aside from skating, Robbie doesn’t shy away from weights, namely intense leg and butt workouts (think: back squats, front squats, leg presses, and deadlifts). She further proves she’s a badass by finishing off her weight-lifting sessions with a jog, jumping rope, jump squats, and mountain climbers. Then, there are her upper body and core workouts that include military presses, push-ups, planks-to-push-ups, pull-ups, and chest presses. As demanding as her workout routine is, Robbie gives her body breaks by alternating between the gym and lighter “activity” days such as Pilates, and ballet.
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Nutrition
Robbie’s idea of balance carries into how she nourishes her body, making sure there’s room for all foods–including indulgences–in her diet. She admittedly “can’t just have a salad every day and half a glass of wine every second day.” To drive the point home, Robbie continued her conversation with Vogue between bites of avocado toast, grilled Halloumi cheese, and Australian-style bacon (extra crispy), and they hit up her favorite ice cream shop, Salt & Straw, post-rollerblading. If you can’t tell already, she has a sweet tooth and knows it’s OK to indulge it. “Chocolate, waffles, and fries are the main food groups that make up my diet,” she expressed to Emirates Woman.
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However, a typical day of eating when she’s preparing for a role might look like porridge and a green smoothie for breakfast, tuna steak and sweet potato for lunch, and lemon chicken and brown rice for dinner. In her every day, Robbie has a major sweet tooth and knows foods you love are part of a balanced diet, but she prioritizesprotein-rich meals when prepping for roles like Barbe.
Clingy, co-dependent, controlling? Not Shay Mitchell. We love Shay for a lot of reasons—her style, wellness routine, and travel bag brand BÉIS, to name a few—but it’s her recent advice for dealing with relationship anxiety that has made us fall in love with her even more than we ever thought was possible. In aninterview that Shay did with Alex Cooper on the Call Her Daddy podcast, she was asked how she can trust her longtime boyfriend and father of two kids, Matte Babel, traveling with Drake, going to parties, and being around other women while she is at home with their kids, and Shay’s honest and relatable response was so profound that the clip garnered 8.5 million views and counting on TikTok.
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Acting as a PSA to women everywhere, Shay Mitchell’s solution for dealing with relationship anxiety comes down to self-love, independence, and knowing your worth. We’re breaking down exactly how Shay implements this mindset into her own life and relationship and offering even more advice for how you can adopt it too.
What is relationship anxiety?
While it might sound self-explanatory, let’s first break down exactly what relationship anxiety is and where it stems from. According toHealthline, it refers to the feelings of worry, insecurity, and doubt that can pop up in a relationship, even if everything is going relatively well. You might wonder what your partner is doing when you’re not around, doubt their feelings for you, second guess their commitment to you and more. These feelings and thoughts usually stem from personal insecurities, past relationship experiences,attachment styles, or a lack of trust and communication.
The good news is that experiencing relationship anxiety is extremely common (even in the healthiest relationships); however, feelings of worry, insecurity, and doubt can start to make people spiral out of control, causing distress, sleepless nights, and ultimately affecting someone’s well-being as well as the well-being of their relationship. If you have ever experienced this or are experiencing it now, Shay’s advice is exactly what you need to hear.
Shay Mitchell’s advice for relationship anxiety
Let’s make one thing clear: Even though we consider Shay a total queen who can do no wrong, even she is not immune to experiencing relationship anxiety. She mentioned in the interview that she too has lost sleep worrying about her relationships in the past and that it can be hard even now because she does truly care. She goes on to say that if anything were to happen with her and her boyfriend, she would deal with it then, but for the sake of her happiness and the happiness of her partner, she says “I can’t live my life worrying about what he’s doing,” and to that, we say amen sister.
Shay adds that “when you truly love somebody, you want them to live their happiest life”—even if it’s not with you. You have to understand that you can’t control everyone around you—the only thing you can do is what’s best for you. So, if you are dealing with relationship anxiety, playing some variation of this Shay Mitchell quote in your head on repeat will help you tenfold: “If you can take him from me, then he’s yours.”
Why this advice can help relieve relationship anxiety
One of the main reasons why Shay can confidently navigate through her relationship without relationship anxiety is because she truly does believe that what’s meant to will be. She mentioned that when she used to worry about her past relationships, it got to the point where she would have to ask herself what would happen if something went wrong. She decided that her mindset would be “I’ll be OK, I’ll keep it moving,” adding that if that’s the case, it wasn’t meant to be.
If you have an anxious attachment style, this can be a hard lesson to learn, but once you accept that sleepless nights aren’t going to change anything, you’ll be less stressed, worried, and doubtful. “We’re going to do what we’re going to do,” according to Shay, so you can’t worry about something before it happens. She added that instead of spending time worrying about our partners, we should be spending time bettering ourselves. This will allow us to feel more confident in our independence, which will in turn help us feel more confident in ourselves and whatever the outcome of our relationship is.
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How to implement Shay Mitchell’s advice in your relationship
If you are feeling like you are in a constant state of anxiety, worrying about what your partner is doing, how they feel about you, and if your relationship is going to last, Shay says that “you need to be in love with yourself more.” She added that “you shouldn’t be feeling that way in a healthy relationship, and if you are, then maybe it isn’t the right one.”
Start by accepting that whatever is going to happen will happen whether it’s for better or for worse in your relationship. You can’t drain your happiness trying to control the outcome or lose track of the valuable time that you could be focusing on yourself or spending genuine quality time with friends and family. Move forward by putting trust in your partner and truly wanting what is best for yourself and them as individuals first. That will reveal whether or not you and your partner will be together for the long haul or if there is something better waiting for both of you on the other side.
We’ve been seeing this baby yellow, tropical-looking mocktail sweeping TikTok and Instagram with some pretty delectable claims.
It helps:
boost immunity
clear up skin
improve digestion
decrease bloat
And the list goes on.
But when we saw AN ENTIRE LEMON, peel and all, go into the blender, our first thought was “That can’t be good.” Pithy, bitter—that’s what we anticipated.
We were wrong.
It’s super creamy, delicious, and hardly sour at all, let alone bitter. It tastes like a treat, and we are down for it anytime.
Make it yourself with the recipe below:
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Creamy Lemon Olive Oil Elixir
RECIPE TYPE: Beverage
DIETARY INFO: Vegan, Gluten-free
SERVING SIZE: 3
TOTAL TIME: 5 minutes
INGREDIENTS:
1 whole lemon, including peel (Make sure to scrub it clean.) 2 tablespoons high-quality olive oil 2 tablespoons honey (Raw is great. Since this recipe doesn’t involve heat, the good stuff is preserved!) 1 small knob of ginger (about an inch, peeled) 3 cups of water
INSTRUCTIONS:
1. Combine all ingredients in a blender, and blend on high until completely incorporated. It should have a slushie consistency and a pale-yellow color. 2. Strain contents into a jar using a fine mesh sieve to separate the thicker pulp. You can save the pulp for a baking project later or discard. 3. Drink a cup or so of the strained liquid, and reserve the rest in the fridge for another time!
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