Category: wellness

Can’t Orgasm? Here’s Why

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The climax. The big “O.” Coming. Cleave the pin. Let go. Crack your marbles. You’ve heard all the euphemisms, but you haven’t quite been able to get there yourself. So, whenever you have sex, you’re so focused on getting to the finish line yourself that you just can’t seem to quite get there.

We’re here to help! Your sexual pleasure is important, and not being able to orgasm is stressful, uncomfortable, and frustrating. Ready to climax but not sure how? Come (ha) along with me!

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You’re expecting a giant explosion of emotion

The movies (and friends sometimes, too!) can make an orgasm sound like a firework is exploding in your body. Not every orgasm feels like that. As I once said, orgasms are like snowflakes — they’re all unique!

Don’t orgasm-compare either! As much as I love talking to friends about sex, make sure you understand that their experiences are going to be different from yours.

You’re too tense

Relax girl! When you get too overworked making sure you climax, your body can’t “let go.”

Yoga, stretching, really any kind of exercise, and meditation can help you relax and get over all the stress you’re putting your body through. It might also be a good idea to let your partner know that you’re struggling. He or she might be able to help calm your nerves and get your body to relax.  

You and your partner aren’t connecting

As much as I hate to write this one, it could be something in your relationship that’s making orgasming difficult. Whether you’re not connected physically, you’re both stressed about something, you’re miscommunicating, or something else is going on between the two of you, it might make your body tense up or your mind might be in a different place.

Practice some mindfulness. It might sound weird (and difficult!), but stay in the present while you’re having sex. Really be there with your partner and stay focused on what’s happening in the present moment. You’ll feel more gratitude toward your partner, and have better sex (!!!).

Try masturbating

If you haven’t tried getting off on your own, YOU MUST. Ok, it’s not that dramatic, but I would definitely recommend you start here! Masturbation helps you get an idea of what you enjoy, and once you’re able to make yourself orgasm, it’s easier to tell your partner what he or she can do to get you there.

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If you’re struggling to get off from masturbation as well, try adding in toys and trying different positions.

Sex is painful

If sex hurts, obviously you’re not going to enjoy it enough to orgasm. Make an appointment with your doctor ASAP.

If you’re taking some medications

Certain medications can decrease your libido and lower your ability to climax. If this is really bothering you, bring this up with your doctor as well.

You’re afraid of losing control

Self-proclaimed control freak here, and I can say first-hand that being afraid to lose control and let your body go is actually a very common reason for not being able to orgasm. If you’re with a new partner, dealing with body image issues, or dealing with other areas of stress in your life, it’s easy to feel like you don’t want to lose control of your sex life.

Communicate with your partner that you’re struggling with this aspect of your sex life. Getting it off your chest is the first step in relinquishing control, and your partner might be able to ease your mind of some of the (probably false!) narratives you’re telling yourself.

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10 AFFIRMATIONS That Will Shift Your Energy

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The average person will have almost 60,000 thoughts in one day. Most of these thoughts are fleeting or uncontrolled. However, whether we recognize this or not, some of these thoughts affect our mental health, the way we live, and the decisions we make on a daily basis. Taking control of our thought life will result in a healthier life and ultimately a better version of us.

Here are some helpful hacks and things I say when I am trying to take control of my thoughts. We are all subject to bad days. But there are ways we can guard our worlds with our words.

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1. I AM DOING BETTER THAN I THINK I AM.

We all have a tendency to be hard on ourselves, which can cause us to really think we are doing worse than we are in reality. My focus is not on my failures—I choose to pay attention to my wins.

2. THERE ARE MORE PEOPLE FOR ME THAN AGAINST ME.

It’s so easy to get caught up with those who are against us and forget those who are in our corner! Let’s remember that there are way more people for us than against us who truly want the best for us.

3. MY FUTURE IS BRIGHT, AND MY BEST DAYS ARE STILL AHEAD OF ME.

This is an important one. Pay attention—your glory days are not behind you. Believing in a beautiful tomorrow will always open windows of opportunity.

4. I AM STRONG ENOUGH TO FACE WHAT’S IN FRONT OF ME.

Say this: I am powerful! I will choose faith over fear, and move forward knowing that I am strong enough to face what’s in front of me.

5. THERE IS PURPOSE IN MY PAIN.

Circumstances are catalysts toward our growth. We must always remind ourselves that there is a purpose in our pain and experiences.

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6. I WILL FOCUS ON BEING PRESENT OVER PERFECT.

Let’s be honest: none of us are perfect. See the magic in every moment.

7. “I AM” WILL BE LOUDER THAN “I’M NOT.”

Our doubts, fears, and insecurities often dominate our thought life. Let the dominant voice inside you be the I CAN and the I AM.

8. THE GATEWAY TO JOY IS THROUGH MY GRATITUDE.

We are all pursuing happiness. Try being thankful—it might make you smile more.

9. I HAVE EVERYTHING I NEED.

Sometimes it’s easy to dwell on what we don’t have. But I want to encourage you: everything you need is already in your hand, and you are enough for the task.

10. I LOOK GOOD. SORRY, I LOOK SO GOOD!

There is only one you! And you are stunning.

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What Is HAVENING THERAPY?

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How do you manage traumatic events that have happened or are happening in your life? How do you remove emotions from your brain related to certain challenging situations, either from your past or your present? How do you change your connection to these emotional setbacks, forever?

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Let’s go back to the beginning of humankind and how we have learned to exist through certain survival methods. Depending on the life situation, it can either take your body into a state of “danger” or a state of “safe.” Let’s go even deeper. The autonomic nervous system is controlled by the vagus nerve, which begins in the brain and goes all the way down and throughout the endocrine system, bonding all of your organs together. Your autonomic nervous system functions aren’t consciously controlled, such as heart rate, breathing, and digestion. It is divided into two halves: the parasympathetic, or “safe” and calm resting state, and sympathetic, the “fight or flight” danger mode.

When you find yourself in a stressful situation, the vagus nerve sends electrical currents down your spine, stimulating a response of fight or flight, where you resist forcibly or run away. In today’s world, you would be stunned at how much time you and even your children spend in the fight-or-flight mode. But it’s possible to manage your central nervous system so that you can disconnect your emotional attachments to certain stressful or traumatic situations. You can control your emotional-brain-body connection.

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Here’s how…

Havening

Havening is a psycho-sensory therapy technique (a mind-body connection) that’s easy to use every day of the week. In just a few minutes, it can change your brainwave state so that you can disconnect the emotions that are stuck in your brain related to certain traumatic and stressful events.

Here’s how it works. First, identify the stressful event. Then, identify your emotions attached to that event (you can even write this down). Then, create an affirmation that will help disconnect your emotions from the challenging situation, such as, “I am calm, I am at peace, I am safe,” “I am open to being compassionate,” “I am hopeful,” “I open my heart to friendship,” or “I open my mind to learning.” Then find a quiet, out-of-the-way space, sitting or standing, and close your eyes. Next, bend your arms at the elbows and cross them in front of you. Resting the palm of each hand on the opposing shoulder, gently stroke your arm, starting at your shoulder down to your elbow. When you have reached your elbow, raise your hands back to your shoulders and repeat this stroking motion, all the while repeating to yourself or out loud your affirmation or mantra. Do this for five to seven minutes.

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Once you have completed your session of this relaxation therapy method, open your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and then make your evaluation. Ask yourself, “Do I still have emotions attached to this stressful event? Have I moved away from the unlikely event toward the life outcome that I want?” To no surprise, you will discover that not only have you immediately had a positive change in your physiological (body) state but that you no longer have certain negative emotions attached to the situation—they will have all but gone away.

This sensory relaxation technique relieves a tremendous amount of life stressors, such as learning disabilities, depression associated with traumatic events, autism, insomnia, high blood pressure, and auditory hypersensitivity.

Always remember your values, strengths, and skills. In doing this technique, you will remember the kind of person that you want to be and how you choose to respond to current challenges or stressful traumatic memories.

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In these times, Kate offers virtual sound-healing sessions on Instagram at House of Profound, and as a Reiki Master, she is also able to offer distance healing. Additionally, she holds certificates as an Integrative Nutrition Coach and in kundalini and astrology. Visit her website and follow her on Instagram for more information.

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Lizzo Just Went Totally Vegan, Here’s What She Eats In A Day

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It took me years to learn that I don’t need to be thinner to be happy and that healthy can also look thicc AF. Wellness isn’t a destination, issa journey and after making a major lifestyle change to level up her diet and elevate her fitness, Lizzo knows this well.

In a series of posts on TikTok, the 32-year-old 3X Grammy-award singer revealed her recent transition to veganism and said that although it hasn’t been easy, her physical well-being is totally worth it. She captioned one video:

“As a new vegan, I’m enjoying exploring flavors from plants & plant-based proteins! Every journey is personal & deserves to be celebrated.”

In her latest collection of Tik Tok videos, which has more than 9 million followers, Lizzo has been diligently spilling the tea on all of the plant-based products that keep her feeling good as hell and we are taking notes. With small lifestyle changes like switching out her hot cheetos for hummus and veggie puffs, Lizzo says that her increased amount of time at home has allowed her to put her culinary skills to the test to curb her cravings.

Along with vegan bacon with maple syrup, mushroom meatballs, and plant-based scrambled eggs, here are a few more of Lizzo’s go-to recipes:

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Breakfast

Ingredients:

  • Coconut water
  • Kale or spinach
  • Frozen fruit

Lunch

Ingredients:

  • Kale
  • Red cabbage
  • Broccoli
  • Avocado
  • White onions
  • Carrots

Snack

“I used to eat a lot of hot Cheetos, but that wasn’t good for my acid-reflux. These are Cheeto-alternative I love that’s vegan and I dip them in hummus. Badda-boom badda-snack!”

Ingredients:

  • Hummus
  • Lesser Evil Paleo Puffs

Dinner

Ingredients:

  • Mushroom balls mixed with truffles and chickpeas
  • Quinoa
  • Leftover lunch salad

Dessert

Ingredients:

  • peanut butter
  • frozen strawberries
  • oats, oat milk
  • vanilla protein powder
  • and “love from Jesus.”

Lizzo concluded the TikTok explaining that she feels “very lit and full” while reminding her followers that “we still need justice for Breonna Taylor.”

In a separate TikTok, the body-positive singer said being vegan has been “pretty easy” except when she is hungover – as she craves cheesy eggs.

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@lizzo

Might do a what I eat in a day vid because I feel like us fat queens need to represent 🤤

♬ original sound – lizzo

Fortunately, Lizzo has found a plant-based recipe for a vegan scramble that satisfies the craving, made with Just Egg alternative, vegan cheese, spinach, and a carne asada, bean, and corn mixture.

The “Hustlers” actress paired the breakfast hangover meal with vegan bacon, which she recommends cooking in maple syrup “so it gets nice and crunchy and candied.”

Lizzo’s new vegan lifestyle has been met with support from her followers, who have applauded her for promoting veganism.

“This is awesome! I wanna eat every one of these things! Good on you for being a new vegan!” one person wrote, while another said: “Didn’t know you are vegan! I love you even more now, influential queen!”

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This is not the first time Lizzo has given fans an insight into her healthy lifestyle choices.

Earlier this month, she shared a TikTok compilation showing her doing various exercises, while explaining that she doesn’t work out to “have your ideal body type.”

“I’m working out to have my ideal body type. And you know what type that is? None of your f—ing business,” she said.

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I for one appreciate Lizzo talents, honesty, and many people are happy that she decided to share her recipes with us. There aren’t many vegan restaurants around me. I am halfway vegan so seeing someone who has similar food taste as me, makes me very excited to start chefting it up vegan style.

COMMENT BELOW VEGAN RESTAURANTS AROUND BROWARD/MIAMI AND LET US KNOW IN THE COMMENT SECTION SOME GOOD VEGAN RECIPES! ( don’t be stingy, we are all family here )